VOL. LIV.
INDIANAPOLIS, IND.. NOV. 18. 1899.
NO. 46
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Hama Seme el the Faults ani Ueals  of
Girls You KaoW'-'Suggatt In prove
went.
1st Premium.—If "a fault understood ir>
half cured." then a discussion of this week's
topic should prove most profitable, though it
might seem more pleasant to name only the
graces of our girls, looking over their blemishes.
Selfishness is perhaps the root of most that
is wrong ln young lives; lb name is legion,
but whether the fault is called love of their
own comfort, obstinacy, laziness, wanting
their own way, Ill-temper, or whatever lt
may be, the prime cause ls selfishees.
A few girls Beem to think lt a disgrace to
work and scorn those that do, being too indolent to work, or too think, or even to keep
up with the questions of the day; such often
quote "all things come to him who »aits"
but experience will teach that none of the
really good things of life come to the girl
who lazllv waits for them. Selfishness leads
to insincerity:—the remedy ls to pretend no
friendship which is not genuine; never backbite;" shun hypocrisy as poison; small deceits and petty lies make enemies of friends.
Much unhappiness is caused by being suspicious; since life is a looking glass two of the
greatest charms which any girl may possess
are a cheerful manner, and the belief that
people are wishing her well; such conduct will
reflect hope and confidence while suspicions
yield only unkind and troublesome reflections. Love of self leads to undue regard for
drees; too much attention to outward adorn"
ment and too little to mental development
Every girl should dress neatly and tastefully,
alwaya within the limit of her meane, and ln
keeping with the season and circumstances,
but not her dress so much aa her address
thould be her chief concern. The aim of
eome girls ls to shine in society; ln seeking
their own pleasure they neglect both home
and school duties; "good-times" are all right
la their proper places; every girl should have
Pleaeures, but she ehould be careful of tbe
price t-he pays for them; better make some
preeent sacrifice of so called "good-times"
than to grow into womanhood ignorant, with
untrained mind shallowness of thought and
a want of definite purpose are also faults to
be avoided. Each girl thould train her mind
to think; she ehould determine to gain some
knowledge, (even though deprived of school
opportunities) by using the little fragments
°f time that may be redeemed from most
days.
Another fruit of selfishness ia carelessness.
The careless girl in continually seeking what
'he has needlessly misplaced upsets the eys-
fem of the home, keeps buey people waiting,
snd wastes muih of her own time. Careless
•n dress, yet ehe thinks no one notices her
dishevelled hair and unlaced shoes, or the
missing button and rent ln her gown. Sbe is
careless of her health, and careless in speech,
l« careful neither of her own words, nor of
the familiarity she permfts from others, and
careless of her own good came, forgetting lt
It to much easier to live up to a good reputation than to live down a bad one. She is
careless ln her manners, though "manners
»re minor virtues" Slang Is the first etep on
the quick decent of bad manners—not pro-
■ ans or unclean words—but mere slang will be
*>* little rift which after a little while will
fender all the music of womanly conversation, not mute, but unheard ln the discord
°' coarse expressions. Slang Is olosely allied
*° loudness of speech and flashlne*a in dress.
The tlangy girl will go to eitreme* ln the
'sehlong of the day; she Is pronounced in her
•Ikes and dislikes, and self-assertlre in her
Weas; She forgets to be gracious, and does
Q°t hesitate to eay disagreeable things; she is
Impertinent to parents and teachers; has lit.
tie respect for age, or reverence for sacred
thinge; she whispers and giggles in church
and other gatherings, Indulges ln silly mannerisms, and shows a lack of refinement, yet
she knows that "stlllneis of person and steadiness of features aro signal marks of good-
breeding." Good Englleh ls not hard to speak
and womanly manners are not difficult to acquire.
Another fault ls the lack of moral earnestness; years of life are sometimes wasted; every girl should cultivate a desire to know only
what is worth knowing; there ls no time for
gossip; gossip may begin in a seemingly
harmless wish to know about people ln whom
one Is interested but ends ln an absorbing
passion to know every thing about every body's
affairs. Living Is not play, but brings solemn responsibilities and duties; the earnest
girl will determine to make the moet of her
life by letting go all pretense and self-seeking, and striving for what ls really " worth
while."
The faults mentioned may seem like little
ones, but remember sins grow from small
weaknesses; if any of these fallings are yours,
Hoosier girls, will you not for your own and
others comfort cast them Into the depths of
the sea of oblivion?
May each girl number among the ideals
which she la earnestly striving ta attain gentleness ln speech and manner, a love for
home, and for an industry which consists in
something more than doing fancy work. A
cheerful disposition, and a loving smpathetlc
heart; the courage of right convictions; a
character containing "all the firmness that
does not exclude delicacy, and all the softness that does not imply weakness," in short
an ideal of noble womanhood; and may ehe
have the etrength of glad earnertness to attain in her life all the best possibilities of her
nature. Fabmbb's Dauohtxb.
2nd Premium —The girls—Hearen bleesthe
dear little simplicities—are very human and
faulty. But the fault ls cot so muth ln their
nature as in their training and environment.
Do we often see girls, wbo are the daughters
of broad-minded and noble women, with
grave thoughts and low ideals? I think not.
The most common fault among young girls
la vanity. Harmless If well directed, but
sometimes baleful in Its influence; for if
fostered ln the impressionable minds of the
young, lt soon becomes predominant. All
around us we see pretty little heads so rilled
with dress and desire for admiration that
more serious thoughts are driven to the wall
and there ls little room for lofty Ideals. A
beautiful symmetrical character ls a lasting
beauty, even after the fragile body bas turned
to duet. Let its shaping and building be first,
rejecting whatever may mar lta purity of design and structure. Like those Grecian temples matchless ln symmetrical beauty, let
y ur character building serve as a model for
others.
A serious fault with our girls of tho present
day is a lack of dignity and reserve with their
masculine acquaintances. A sort of slap on
the back, "hall fellow well met," manner Is
positively shocking to those whose good opinion is of any va'ue "Familiarity breeds
contempt" ls not a eenselees saying. Do you
remember reading with what care the ermine
avoids soiling the pure whltenets of Its fur?
I would eay to my girl acquaintances, be circumspect ln your behavior If you would have
the respect and honor due to women. How
often do I see a pretty girl in her teens
buggy-riding with a young fellow, sitting beside her puffing the smoke of a bad cigar in
her face, indifferent to her taete or comfort;
whose is the fault? Tears ago, a man took
out his cigar caee, while in company with my
husband's mother, with "Madame is amoklng
offensive to you?"   "Indeed I do not know,"
said the young matron, "no   gentleman  haa
ever smoked ln my pretence."
But what can I eay of tho girls' Ideals—so
many and varied are they. The restless mind
is ever buey, longing and searching for lt
knows not what, Thero are Ideals lofty
enough ln themselves, peihaps, so long as
they aro merely Ideals. But a girl Is only too
apt to clothe some tangible object with roee-
hued garments, which her imagination has
woven, and the ideal becomes an idol which
sooner or later will topple and break, showing
how poor was the clay from which it was
made. Happy indeed ls the girl that has some
wise friendly adviser, who will help to tide
her over this transition period between childhood and womanhood Let girls read good
stories if they like diction. Tbey will find
many beautiful thoughts. A young mind Is
apt to draw false Ideas of life from reading fiction. Bear In mind that those wonderful heroes and heroines, whom you admire
and consider your ideal character*, never existed. They are the brain children of mortals
like yourself, who create the characters and
write the stories for the money. R?ad good
literature. Shun low company and vulgar
amusements. Use pure language as vehicles
for pure thoughts. Do not nourish a morbid
curiosity. Be advised by thoee older and
wiser than yourself. Devote every energy of
mind and soul to the building of a beautiful
character. M. M. D.
Bush Oo. 	
3d Premium —
Seme feelings are to mortalsgiven.
With leaa of earth in them than heaven;
And if there be a human tear.
From pasaiona dress refined ana clear,
A tear eo limped and so meek,
It would not stain an angel'a cheek
'Tie that which pious fathers she!
Upon a duteoua daughters head!
—Sir Walter Scott.
Many persons pass through life without
a consciousness of their standing and place
in society. Social conditions are gocd or
bad, just as we make them. Tbe strongeet
character in wemanhood is the essential
basis for our social development. The best
womanhood requires the most skillful training of our girls. Truth fullneis should be
cultivated, and morality should be a doml
nant virtue in every girl. Exaggeration, or
false coloring, ia as much a violation of Integrity as a direct falsehood. Too many of our
girls are not Christians. Cbrletlanlty is essential in every young woman, if her influence on society is towards the better conditions of life. Another great fault of girls
in the present age ls the love of dress and
beauty. Beauty oftentimes proves to be a
dangerous gift. Thousands of the most
beautiful women are destitute of good common sense. Yet while we are finding faults
with our girls we mutt not overlook their
good qualities. If we brood to much on 111 conditions we are likely to grow pessimistic; all
of us possess good and bad qualities. The
good would do what it ought to do; the bad
does what it can do. It is true that a great
many of our girls have grand purposes in life.
I once knew a girl who seemed to think that
earth was heaven. Sbe was always doing
good, working ln Sabbath school, ln church,
ln Ohristlan Endeavor. It seemed as though
her one Idea was to do all the good she could
and harm no one.   She was an Ideal gtrl.
Again I knew a girl who had the greatest
respect for old age. She would assist an aged
pereon when her schoolmates would sneer and
laugh at her. She considered old age beautl-
tlful, honorable, eloquent When girls begin
to think about having a home of their own
tbey have the idea that they should like to
have huebands with plenty of means, eo they
can live a life of ease and comfort, even If
there is no love there. But love should precede as well aa follow matrimony. The con
nublal yoke sits eaey on the shoulders of love;
but it ts most galling without this one and
only si. fll .lent support. Whon I was a girl
my Idea was not to marry a farmer, but that
Idea eoon vanished. I married a farmer and
I am glad of lt. The Ideal wife is heaven's
last and beet gift to man; his angel of mercy;
his gem of many virtues. The gentle voice
of the mother falls upon the household with
the streetcet music in Its cadence, and the
glory of her virtues ls the sunshine that lights
the shrine of holy worship.
Grant Oo. Mas. L. W.
'    BXVXZW.
One of the most common faults or misfortunes that I see ln girls ls lack of high ideals.
I do not speak blamtngly, because it la not
altogether their fault. Ae one writer saye:
' We are a part of all that we meet." And
their eurroundlngs have often b Jen at fault.
Again I eeo many girls that do have worthy
ideals and are cuefully striving for them.
A girl wandering through life without a
plan, or without a good plan, is like building
a railroad without a eurvey. Her life ls summing up of accidents. Life ls successful to
those only who make definite plans and press
them to maturity. I can sum the life history
of many girls all up in a few words: "They
juet growed up."
Oae of the best things that a student gets at
school or college lsthi teaching of the unsoen
silent voices. Tbe inspiration of those you
meet. The thaping, not the making, of character.
With young girls there la often a loudness,
that amounts to rudeness, or a giggling and
tittering as tbey walk the street. But the
rudest thing I ever notice is whispering and
laughing ln church, having a sort of good
time. This ls made woisa by their taking a
scat far forward, so that every motion attracts
the attention of all behind them. Anything
done ln public that unnecessarily attracts attention to ones Belf la rude and green. This
it true whet h ar or the street or ln an aud lence.
Let me say to mothers that the habit of
good reading of magazines and books that
live on a high plane, together with a taete for
modest cuitured associates is the greatest safeguard that you can throw around your daughters Oae writer speaks of a stylish looking
girl wearing any old thing as underwear with
a fine drees. Polite people are always clean,
not eo much for the reepc ct of others as to
Insure self re'pect.
On the queetion of marriage I would say,
"Inetead of setting your cap for a husband,
and devoting your life to getting married;
see that you make yourself worth of your
Ideal man, and be will find you out, and be
attracted to you."
Motto—"Oleanse Thou me from eecret
faults "—Bible	
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age of each child.
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happiness, sweetness and success to the pait
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